Saturday, November 14, 2009

Is sending flowers appropriate in this situation?

Here's the situation: I met this girl during the course of my internship. My internship ended, she is still in the office. When still working in the office, I asked her out to dinner and she said yes. I then asked her out a second time and she said she wasn't ready for a relationship at this time, but she liked spending time with me and would like to remain friends. Now, I've been out of the office for a month and I've not seen or heard from her. I should mention we do live roughly 120 miles apart. I've sent her an email or two and even left a voice mail message on her phone, but no response. With seemingly no options left to keep in contact with her, would it be appropriate to send her a "just because" flower bouquet? Not roses or anything, but something like tulips? I really have nothing to lose at this point.

Is sending flowers appropriate in this situation?
Flowers will be too elaborate and grandiose at this stage, I would send a small but exquisite Box of chocolates and a note, simply saying ' From an old mate, hope its not something I did wrong '. ( That's British irony for,' you rude b***h, you don,t even have the manners or class to respond, yea or ney'. ) Then wait and see, if no respond, take the hint and move on.
Reply:i wouldn't send the flowers she might think that is creepy or obsessive or a little to over the top
Reply:You could. It's not inappropriate or outlandishly appalling. Personally, though, I think it's a waste of time. Any girl who says she's not ready for a relationship and just wants to be friends is lying. If she thought the guy was right, then she'd be ready in a hurry. The fact that she's been ignoring you (which to me is the BIGGEST slap in the face imaginable, as if to say you're not even worth the time to say, "sorry not interested") is a strong indication that she doesn't want to be friends or in a relationship w/ you. She said what she said to let you down easy and avoid a confrontation that might've ended w/ you being hurt.
Reply:I guess you can.
Reply:sorry but don't do it!

if she hasn't even replied to your emails then it's just embarrassing for the both of you. How can you like someone that's brushed you off?

Look elsewhere for affection....if she changes her mind she can always email you!

good luck1
Reply:I think she's trying to say she's not interested by not replying to your emails or voice mail. You're right in that you have nothing to lose so I don't think you can go wrong by sending them but it will probably be a waste cuz she doesn't sound interested.

When a guy is interested in me but I'm not interested in him, it's hard for me to stay friends and keep in contact with him because I don't want to "lead him on" and end up hurting him. If I'm sure there's no way I will ever date him, I don't want him to pass up other opportunities because he thinks he has a chance with me. I usually say that I don't want a relationship. If he calls or emails frequently I keep my responses short or don't respond at all. I'm not trying to be rude. I just don't want to give him a false sense of security.

If you want to send the flowers I would wait 3 weeks after your last message to her. If you haven't heard from her say something in the card about still being interested in her and if she ever wants a relationship or needs anything you hope she call. Then stop trying to contact her. She'll be aware of how you feel and that you'd like to hear from her. She'll contact you when and if she's ready.
Reply:you can try to send her a flower..and a piece of card written there by sumone who loves you miss you or etc... but dun write your names on it..let her shock, let her find, and let her think who been sending her a flower..after you play a role, then be a gentlemen go to her place surprise her the same flower that you gave to her, ask her out for dinner, then explain to her, let her realise that you been lovin her.. who noes she might change her mind..
Reply:If the thought of flowers enters your mind sendx them. It makes a womans day
Reply:You could certainly try, I don't see anything wrong with it.

At this point if she doesnt respond back then you basically know, and can move on.
Reply:I dunno if the flowers mite be pushing it...i mean, she's not responding to u....give her space. Maybe eventually she'll come back to u. Give it a few weeks...then maybe send her flowers just saying "thinking of you" or something.;...

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